Breaking up with a significant other can be excruciatingly difficult. There’s awkwardness of accidentally running into each other, or seeing each other because of mutual friends. There can also be resentment and anger towards the person. But have you ever had to break up with a toxic friend?
I try to be pretty tolerant and a patient person. There are however, a few reasons why I usually end up cutting ties with someone close to me.
1. They put me down, rather than try to make me feel better.
I get some people are unhappy, or have a hard time being happy, but when they make other’s around them unhappy too is extremely unfair.
2. They treat their significant other or spouse poorly.
Self-centered people are definitely the type of people I stay away from. If they only care about themselves, would they really help me in a situation? Probably not.
3. People who make immature decisions.
If they live for drama, gossip, speed excessively while texting and driving, and make rude comments about people – no thank you.
4. They are superficial.
I’ve never been a fan of liars, or cheaters, or people who care more about their looks than their own grammar. I’m an honest nerd and I like to surround myself with like-minded adults.
If someone chooses to use the “R” word around me, and they know I work with kids who have Autism, or talk negatively about someone close to me; I make the choice to cut that toxic person out of my life. If someone isn’t happy for your success, and is jealous, that “friend” isn’t a real friend at all. When we spend so much time around a negative person, I do believe we start to take on the negative energy of them.
Ending The Friendship
If you think you need to break up with a friend, I suggest doing it maturely and tactfully. Don’t talk badly about the person to a mutual friend, or block them from all social media. That ends nothing. There is NO closure and I highly doubt you would feel much better. Let them know how you honestly feel. If this friend is actually negative and toxic, they will not understand and more than likely get defensive. A real friend would understand, try to see it from your point of view, and attempt to mend your friendship.
As I get older I make sure not only my body is healthy but my mind is as well. Who I hang out with directly impacts my mental thoughts and well-being. There is so much negativity in the world these days, it doesn’t need to be in my personal life at all.
Have you ever had to end a friendship?